Shhhh-Don’t tell Ryan
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Christyna L
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Christyna L
Hello friends,
First, I love you all.
Second, today is National Coming Out Day. I celebrate and mourn this day in equal parts. I just want a world where people are all allowed their full self-expression without fear and without causing actual harm to others. Sigh.
Third, we, Ryan & I, are ok. I am banging this out while he naps. They are so good at sharing while I am knocked out! Turn about is fair play.
He’s looking for work. It’s really scary, for both of us. I’m so glad to be well enough that they can turn more of their attention to the future. It’s hard. I have no advice. My experience is irrelevant to his experience and next steps. He wants to work for a company, to be in the background, an assistant- y’all know that’s not me. Front and center. Having the tough, deep, conversation. Coaching, way finding. That’s me. Getting women to choose their own grey natural hair (17 and counting). If you know a company that needs a great admin or Executive Assistant, or an early paralegal- let Ryan know.
In some ways 6 months after his surgery and 3 months after mine is harder than Month One. Our energy is variable. We each have pains and aches just won’t quit. Currently, after spending ~$9000 on car repairs since my surgery, we still (again!!) have one car in the shop. Sigh.
What a trial by fire for our new marriage! AND we are making it through. Our communication gets better and better. Today Ryan went to the farmers market alone, so I puttered around the house. Then he made Chinese noodles for our breakfast while my nurse changed out my dressings. Then we hopped in the car and I went to a friend gathering with MaryJane & Sarah while he went to the grocery store. Then he dropped me at home and went to another grocery store while I got to enjoy time in the house alone. Ahhh.
It’s been a day. He earned his nap.
And a week.
Thank you all for your support! Love!
First, I love you all.
Second, today is National Coming Out Day. I celebrate and mourn this day in equal parts. I just want a world where people are all allowed their full self-expression without fear and without causing actual harm to others. Sigh.
Third, we, Ryan & I, are ok. I am banging this out while he naps. They are so good at sharing while I am knocked out! Turn about is fair play.
He’s looking for work. It’s really scary, for both of us. I’m so glad to be well enough that they can turn more of their attention to the future. It’s hard. I have no advice. My experience is irrelevant to his experience and next steps. He wants to work for a company, to be in the background, an assistant- y’all know that’s not me. Front and center. Having the tough, deep, conversation. Coaching, way finding. That’s me. Getting women to choose their own grey natural hair (17 and counting). If you know a company that needs a great admin or Executive Assistant, or an early paralegal- let Ryan know.
In some ways 6 months after his surgery and 3 months after mine is harder than Month One. Our energy is variable. We each have pains and aches just won’t quit. Currently, after spending ~$9000 on car repairs since my surgery, we still (again!!) have one car in the shop. Sigh.
What a trial by fire for our new marriage! AND we are making it through. Our communication gets better and better. Today Ryan went to the farmers market alone, so I puttered around the house. Then he made Chinese noodles for our breakfast while my nurse changed out my dressings. Then we hopped in the car and I went to a friend gathering with MaryJane & Sarah while he went to the grocery store. Then he dropped me at home and went to another grocery store while I got to enjoy time in the house alone. Ahhh.
It’s been a day. He earned his nap.
And a week.
Thank you all for your support! Love!
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