🎵 The final countdown 🎶
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Szybatka Family
Hello, all!
Way back in October, I thought i was writing my final post as we had just discovered the metastatc brain tumor. Thankfully, my team cared enough about me to encourage neurosurgery, which blessed with 5 more months. I'm so glad I was given that time to be with Adam and our babies, and our family and friends. We packed a lot of living into those 5 months- hell, we packed a lot of living and loving in to these three years on the cancerous journey of fuckery.
It's wild to look back at how much we've done while my body was fighting itself. Both kids graduated preschool, I've been a solid dance mom and a i-dont-know-what-im-doing-hockey-mom (thankfully a Adam knows this stuff 🤣), we've taken a couple vacations to Wisconsin Dells, Lutsen and Grand Marais, mom & dad staycation for the LFA fights, moving to a new home, experiencing profound loss of both Adam's parents within 4 months of one another, bought a boat and spent all our summer weekends soaking up the sun! It's truly been a messy, beautiful, chaotic life and I wouldn't want to do it with anyone else.
But this... this is actually my final update. The time has come where I am more bedbound than not, I am unable to consume solid foods or medications, and needing stronger doses of those three main medications we will use as I transition from this Earth 💚 Danielle made an extra stop here this morning to assess and then my Hospice team is spending the rest of today getting all the administrative paperwork for Our Lady of Peace finalized.
The "plan" (used loosely as we have learned 🫠) will be move in tomorrow, Tuesday, and we aren't eally sure what the first day or two looks like, so we are asking for privacy during this time. Adam will connect with our loved ones who come to visit and will be politely declining visits from anyone outside our immediate family. Never fear - I've made it clear that I want my celebration of life to be big, loud, and FULL of people 🤩🙌 But for this transition, I need peace, rest, and solitude.
Adam and our babies are going to need help more now than ever before. I have yet to see any SSDI checks and I'm not hopeful the kids will continue to get them once I pass. Adam's going to be scraping by with summer activities and sports. They will also definitely benefit from continued meal or grocery deliveries especially in the next couple weeks when life really feels all sorts of mixed up.
I am utterly heartbroken to leave my family behind. None of this is supposed to happen. I'm supposed to be the one bringing them on college tours and walking them down the aisle with Adam and pouring into our marriage after 8-10 years of being in the thick of it.
Lifting them up and making sure they have what they need is all I can ask of you now. There aren't words to express my deep love and gratitude for all you have blessed us with. From our family and friends, sports coaches, colleagues, friends of friends of friends 🧡 your support has truly love.
Thank you all for the care, stopping by, gifts, meals, taking the kids on adventures and everything else in between. We love and appreciate the outpouring of ❤️ LOVE ❤️
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While I have never met you or your family, I feel as if I have. I believe our kids go to the same school and I heard about your story on Facebook from a friend. I’m not even sure how she knows you. You are an inspiration to all of us with your grace, humor, dignity and openness about your journey. I pray that you have peace in this new transition. Please know that your words have reached far and wide and I have shared your story with many! We are all praying for your family and for you while you transition to a peaceful place. May God shine his light on you and bring you eternal happiness and peace. On a side note, my mom lived her final days at Our Lady of Peace. There isn’t a better place to be for you and your family. They are kind, caring, thoughtful and supportive.
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